Marriage and Autism

The topic of marriage is always a discussion that leads to statistic rates and normally includes a discussion of divorce.  I have written about divorce, autism and denial before and understand the reality that divorce is far too common among couples who have a child with autism or special needs child. I recently read in … Continue reading Marriage and Autism

504 and High School

This post is different from most because it relates to high school.  Ruthfulness has a primary focus on early intervention for parents and students but as a high school teacher, I get to see how teens and their parents handle or fail to handle their/(child's) special needs. Teachers, students, parents, and the community: A 504 … Continue reading 504 and High School

How to mentally prepare for an IEP meeting.

Having a child with special needs is a very emotional experience.  Having a child that is delayed or under performing at their age group is common and parents have to develop a plan for their child's success in life.  That brings in the school.  Schools are legally responsible for providing a free appropriate public education … Continue reading How to mentally prepare for an IEP meeting.

my 5 year old does laundry better than…

many adults! My 5 year old has ASD and has a great ability to do chores or activities that many can't do at the same level.  He has an ability to observe an action or set of actions then repeat them.  He is able to create a system to complete the chore correctly and accurately … Continue reading my 5 year old does laundry better than…

do you have dreams about what will happen to your special needs child when you…?

...when you are no longer able to care for them?   I have!  I haven't had one in a while but I have had the same dream over and over. I dream about being alone. (LOL)  I dream about being alone as an old lady.  I live in a little house in a downtown area … Continue reading do you have dreams about what will happen to your special needs child when you…?

does the teacher complain about ..?

Does the teacher complain about your special needs child's behavior? Stories and advice on what to do when problems arise at school. We have had our share of terrible stories about school and sadly everyone has a story or knows someone with a story.  My son was pretty much non-verbal in preschool.  This seemed to … Continue reading does the teacher complain about ..?

How schools fail special needs children

Part 1 of a never-ending story!     Some of the ways that schools fail special needs children: communication, training, allowing good teachers to teach, involving parents, doing the right thing, honesty, paying professionals with  special education what they are worth, testing, lack of outside time, class size, providing resources to help parents at home … Continue reading How schools fail special needs children

When I noticed my son was different

At around the age of 2, I noticed my son  wasn’t doing the same things as my friends sons were doing.  He didn’t have the language, play skills or eye contact that the other children had.  He seemed to be in his own world, he  just wanted to watch and play with himself.  He was … Continue reading When I noticed my son was different